Who wouldn't secretly enjoy being the sexiest person in the room? Of course, most of us consider it impossible. We believe our age, face or figure rule us out. But happily, we're mistaken. 'This has nothing to do with looks or overt sexuality,' says relationship and psychosexual psychotherapist Clare Faulkner. We all know people who aren't conventionally beautiful or handsome, but who become increasingly attractive as we get to know them (disappointingly, the opposite is also true). Anyone can boost their sex appeal. Here, Clare lists the vital ingredients and skills to becoming an object of desire…Confidence is undeniably attractive. When you exude self-assurance and you feel comfortable in your skin, others are naturally drawn to you. So how can we nurture it? Developing confidence is about knowing your worth, your strengths, and learning to be unapologetically yourself. Developing a unique style is part of this. It's not about dressing 'well' or 'sexily', but presenting yourself in a way that suits you. Style can reflect your personality and make you feel confident. We can also get better at trusting ourselves by tuning in to how we feel, rather than what we look like.Body language is a huge part of this. Think about cultivating a relaxed posture, making eye contact, smiling often - using your body in a way that's welcoming and draws people in. Use gestures and facial expressions to convey warmth and interest. This also ensures that confidence doesn't tip into arrogance (although that too can be sexy, especially if we're up for a fling rather than marriage!). But usually, when there's a conversational spark, it's not because one person is talking nonstop. There's balance, an equal sharing, a give and take - a fine dance is taking place.
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